Fab Fete – First Birthday Party Part 2

pop champagne Food and beverage is such an important part of a successful party.  It helps your guests feel welcomed, cared for and comforted in a new setting.  It can be the most expensive part of a party budget though.  Most people balk at the per head cost venues charge for weddings for instance.  And though some celebrate the Korean first birthday as if it were part 2 to their wedding, (same guests, similar budget), I chose to celebrate on a budget and cut corners wherever I could.  It’s a baby’s birthday after all!

This meant lots of DIY (see earlier post), and this meant no sit-down meal.  Sorry peeps! I did price out a sit-down brunch in NYC at several mid-tier venues at the beginning of all this party planning but quickly learned we couldn’t afford it as they all ran around $60/head (yikes!)  We just finished a home renovation so the last thing we needed was to try and feed 70 guests a $60 per head meal -especially if that only covered simple items like pancakes and fruit!  So I timed the party mid-day, sort of in-between meals (2-4) and worded the invite in such a way that it hinted not to expect a full meal.   You would understand this to be the case if you received this invite, wouldn’t you?birthday invite My husband worried that despite this subtle warning, his side of the family would fast all day in anticipation of a party where they could feast for free.  I balked at the thought of this but resolved to have enough snacks to satiate hungry party go-ers anyways.  So in addition to the dessert bar where the birthday cake would be the star, I knew I had to have a separate table for snack-able, savory bites.

One rule presided over all the menu planning – no sauces, no dips, and small bites ONLY.  This was the rule at Saks Fifth Avenue where I worked as their Marketing /PR Director and planned 125 events a year for them.  And this was going to be the rule at my party too. It’s hard to be chic and elegant when you have sauce running down the side of your face.  Also, it’s not like we had seats for everyone, you were expected to walk around and mingle for the most part so the items had to be things you could eat on-the-go if you will.  The items also had to be tasty cold.  I wasn’t going to hire cater waiters to serve hot hors d’oeuvres for this 2hr party.  We aren’t that fancy.  And yes hubby, there’s a microwave in the party lounge but I’m not asking guests to microwave their cold dumplings.  We’re having kim bop instead darnit!first birthday party food To incorporate both cultures (he’s Chinese-American, I’m Korean-American) I mixed in American, Korean and Chinese snack/dessert items hoping guests might enjoy being adventurous and trying something new and also as a way to honor both heritages.  However, it seemed impossible to find any cold, Chinese hors d’oeuvres or snacks that my husband and I could agree on so at the snack and beverage bar, we offered:

  • bottled waters, stickered in the party’s theme and colors
  • Pop champagne (not pictured here but shown in the blog’s first photo)
  • pink lemonade (never had time to slice up the lime and add in like I wanted)
  • Korean kimbop
  • Korean shrimp chips
  • wasabi snow peas
  • Cosi finger sandwiches
  • alphabet cereal for the kids
  • fruit

bottled water

kim bop

shrimp chips

sandwiches

It’s important to make sure both kids and vegetarians have some healthy options.  And always, always, re-plate any items that come from an outside vendor.  Don’t leave the sandwiches in the Cosi tray with their branded napkins for instance.  Re-plate-ing and tying in your decor is an easy way to upgrade any store-bought item like shrimp chips.   Another tip- you’ll see that  the table runner, menu signs, toothpick flags and napkin holders are all made of the party’s patterned paper and help make all these random items look like they work together.  Yes, even food has to match.  It also helps that the party platters are the same neutral white.    In case you were wondering, all party platters that you see in this post can be bought at Crate and Barrel as well as Bed Bath and Beyond.    Not to be hyper-critical but I look at these photos and wish I had more time to finalize the presentation of this table.  But alas, I also had a dessert table and cake smash area to deal with before all the guests arrived.  FYI, we also had a coffee and hot chocolate station at the party which is not pictured here.

Here is Juliet racing around the room saying hi to all her guests while the adults mingled.

baby car

convertible cars

Onto the cake smash area which is the 2nd thing guests saw as they walked through the door.

cake smash

A lot of people nowadays are having cake smash photo shoots where the birthday baby is photographed eating (mostly smashing) a miniature birthday cake.  It makes for lots of messy but adorable photos and is usually done before a birthday party at a photographer’s studio.  I decided to incorporate it into the party as an event within an event.

teddy bears

I actually drew out this vignette and what I wanted it to look like as I was planning the party so it was exciting to finally see the vision come to life.  I knew I wanted her to sit in her high chair rather than sit on the floor as most cake smash’s are usually done because this way guests could see her better.  I knew I wanted to decorate her high chair and have giant balloons in the picture.  And I figured I would balance the photo opp out by having something sit at the bottom.  The teddy bears (which were actually mine as a child) seemed to be the perfect thing to place at her feet.  3 bears representing our little family and wearing the party hats I made added to the cuteness factor.  The oversized balloons which I bought on Amazon.com were tied with coordinating ribbon and garland made out of tissue paper that I cut.  The tutu skirt tutorial can be found here and is super simple to do (just need elastic and a roll of your favorite tulle).  The birthday banner (and all paper products that you see here was designed around the invite and dress by That Party Chick).

cake smash

Of course when you have kids as guests at your party, you can never count on your decor staying in position through the party.  Especially with balloons, you’re bound to have a burglar or two.  I’m not sure what happened to the balloons I had so artfully placed besides the high chair at symmetrical heights to one another but by the time we sang her happy birthday and the crowd was cheering her on while taking photos, the balloons were nowhere in this picture-perfect sight!  I was too enthralled by little Juliet’s brave reaction to all her paparazzi that I didn’t even care.

cake smash

Of course, little Juliet was simply happy to dig right in – balloon decor next to her or not.  Apparently the number 1 looked especially tasty since that was the first thing to go into her mouth.What was funny to me was how my Korean mom (who never saw nor apparently understood the point of a cake smash) whisked her away once she thought Juliet was making too much of a mess.  She didn’t want Juliet to ruin her outfit and decided on her own to rescue the fashion in exchange for extending this wildly funny photo shoot.  I guess I should have better briefed her on this new cultural tradition.

The dessert bar was my favorite thing to design and decorate because it brought me back to the days when at Saks I did this for our teen prom parties, or matched a new spring fashion collection to the colors of my dessert bar.  Of course back then, I had an assistant and an intern to do the busy work of wrapping chocolates and beverages but still, it was just as fun.

dessert bar pink blue

There was an ornate framed portrait of someone really random in this party lounge space, right where I envisioned the dessert bar to be placed so I had to cover it up by placing this handmade backdrop in front of it.  The frame is rented from Adorama for $12 and was super simple for my handy husband to assemble even though it came without instructions.  And the ruffly white, shabby chic looking fabric is actually a set of shower curtains from Target that I had never had the chance to use.  Little did I know though since I never took it out of its original packaging that it would be so sheer!  I had to do a last minute fix and add a white bed sheet behind it otherwise the whole thing would have been useless.

The dessert bar featured:

  • mini-chocolates
  • gummy bears
  • peanut butter filled mochi
  • black sesame mochi
  • green tea pocky sticks
  • cake
  • cookies

dessert bar

Does it bother you as much as it did me that the cake colors were off?  Also I had asked for the cake to be topsy turvy style but this is what I got.  There always seems to be something at every event that goes wrong, something completely out of your control comes out unlike your order and it throws a wrench in your plans.  As a professional planner, I’ve come to expect the unexpected.  But still, I find imperfect details like this disappointing.  You can tell me I’m crazy for being stuck on such small details and I know it seems silly but I can’t help but be bothered.  Also, is it me or is the cake asymmetrical and not perfectly straight?  argh

dessert bar

birthday cake

cookies

Here’s a before picture of the mini chocolates.  Little Juliet would have laugh attacks at the pile of chocolate before us when I had to organize the chocolates by type as step 1 of this wrapping process.  Her silly laughter helped pass the initial anxiety I had when I started wondering how I was going to finish all these DIY tasks with a baby around.

chocolate

hersheys

mr goodbar

hersheys mini chocolate

hershey's dark chocolate

mochi

These black sesame and peanut butter mochi are SO addicting!  And they’re super cute too.  The bite size portions and squishy texture remind you of squeezing and eating a baby’s cheeks (something I love doing to Juliet).  Can you blame me?  Just look at those cheeks!

first birthday

korean first birthday

She looks like a unicorn with her hat falling into her forehead here, doesn’t she? This photo cracks me up.  It also makes me giggle a little because I think instead of reading “Juliet’s 1st birthday” on the banner behind us, it should really say “we survived!”  Because isn’t that what all first time parents are really celebrating during their child’s first birthday?  Besides keeping her alive, we also survived 6 months of sleep deprivation, changed 2192 diapers and learned more than we ever wanted to about car seats, strollers and developmental toys.  It was a whirlwind year and we made it through happy and sound.

one year old

Here’s to the best birthday that she will never remember!

Keep on the lookout for my next continued birthday post about what went wrong, and the doljabi ceremony – more details and tips about party planning!  And if you haven’t already, see my earlier post about all the DIY items for this first birthday celebration.

For more tips on how to create a fabulous dessert bar click through to my earlier post here.

 

 

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Fab Fete- One Year Old Birthday Party Planning

The first year birthday for a first child in the family marks a significant milestone not just for the child transitioning from infant to toddler stage but quite notably for the parents.  It’s a time for reflection on how fast the baby grew, how quickly the year passed, and how your whole life has changed.  Parenthood changes you.  It changes your lifestyle, your priorities, and who you know yourself to be.  And it challenges you to become more selfless than you have ever been before.  It has been a whirlwind year for us with the new baby, new home and the constant moves for baby and me trying to avoid the renovation hazards.  And we’ve come a long way, baby!

nyc baby

I knew I wanted to celebrate the first year birthday in a big way.  We opted out of having a baby shower so this was a a celebration long overdue.  Also, it is in Korean tradition that the first year is celebrated in a big fashion, akin to how we Americans might celebrate a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah.  Plus, I’m a party planner at heart and by trade so planning this party was a creative outlet that I much looked forward to and enjoyed during the process.

It all started with the dress.  Being obsessed with fashion, I wanted to find the cutest birthday dress for Juliet and actually started looking for it around month 5 or 6.  After scouring the web and browsing literally hundreds of options online, I came across this adorable set from Mudpie. I loved the fun mix of polka dots and stripes and fell in love with the matching hat.  Adorable, isn’t it??

one year old birthday dress

And since I felt a birthday girl’s dress shouldn’t clash her party decor, the dress determined the party color theme and decor.  If step 1 was finding the dress.  Step 2 was finding an invite and party paper set to match.  Between you and me, this search for birthday invites and countless, shameful hours of Pinterest “research” ignited the long-lost thrill of party planning that I feared was over now that I had left my event marketing/PR job post maternity leave.  I giggled recalling how my event planning girlfriend and I once lamented the end of our weddings as we both experienced withdrawal because I felt I was now getting to re-live that sort of planning fun all over again.  And indeed, we have not seen some of these invited guests since 2011 when I got married.  So the first birthday was all that more exciting knowing I’d reunite with some family and friends after yet another life-changing milestone.

Onto the party paper.  That Party Chick on Etsy sold the below invite and I knew it had so much potential to match the birthday dress and become the starting point for the entire event’s look and feel.  birthday party invite

The colors were right, and it gave the graphic stripes and polka dot details on her dress an added complimentary floral pattern.  Michelle Wise from That Party Chick was awesome at creating the requested matching custom: thank you cards, chocolate wrappers, signage, water bottle and favor stickers etc.  I’d highly recommend her as she was quick to respond, and up for all challenges.  Here is a sampling of items I had customized and designed with her help.

Mudpie birthday dress

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 water bottle

As a new mom without full-time help, you can imagine I was strapped for time and had to make sacrifices in order to finish all the DIY projects that I had on my party planning list.  And there was a lot to be done if I wanted this party to look as professionally detailed as I wanted (but on a budget).  Here is a sampling of my DIY todos and keep in mind I had to also set aside time to research best prices for supplies, buy them, print/cut them before creating any of the below:

  • Wrap 100 water bottles
  • Wrap 100 mini chocolates
  • Cut and create toothpick flags for sandwiches
  • Make (2) tulle table skirts
  • Make matching party hats for the little guests
  • Cut and place papers on platters for customized look
  • Make paper garlands for backdrop banner
  • Make tissue paper fringe for table borders, party hats and balloons
  • Create matching risers and presents

party hats

party planning

So out went any hopes of shedding the remaining pounds before this party.  Work out?  WHEN?!  I was going to be lucky if I could sneak in a shower during my sparse free time.  Also on hold was the preschool research that I had started.  6weeks before the party date, I had a one-woman crafting sweatshop to run!  Thank you to the couple people who volunteered time to help me in my crafting craze!  I couldn’t have finished the party hats or toothpicks without you!  And thanks to my husband who let me take over the countertop pictured below to store and assemble!  And thanks for letting me do my thing, even though you did wonder out loud how all this “junk” was going to turn into decor.  Oh ye of little faith!

party diy

Possibly the most time consuming project of all though was the party’s guestbook.  Since the day she was born, I had already recorded her rapid growth using the same Ugly Doll in each photo every week and only changing Juliet’s elaborately styled outfits.  It wasn’t until after I had reviewed others’ Korean first birthday parties that I noted how people displayed (monthly) growth photos at a welcome table.  They were usually in the form of framed photos or hung as a garland.  As an event planner who has pretty much seen it all, I like to find creative ways of doing traditional things.  So I added a twist to the usual and used my weekly growth photos which I already planned to turn into a book for Juliet and got double use out of it by turning it into a party guestbook.  That way, guests could view the weekly fashion photo shoots I styled , enjoy the silly captions I made and record their presence for her with a personal party message.  Shutterfly actually has a great template for guestbooks where you can add in pages that allow people to write their messages, predictions and sign-in.

guestbook

party guestbook

It became a fun, interactive element to the party and gave guests something to talk about and do (there were 52 weeks of photos to browse after all!)

weekly growth

Other interactive elements that I incorporated into the party included:

  • coloring stations for the kids (easels and markers for the older ones, birthday templates and crayons for the younger ones)
  • enter to win -raffle associated with the Korean doljabi ceremony (more on that in my follow-up post)
  • roaming photographer took family photos and candids (photos will be emailed to all guests post party)

I believe in the importance of thinking of your guests’ experience.  Here are some general party tips when planning your own party:

  • Ensure the atmosphere is welcoming and comfortable (enough seats for elderly, space to move between aisles/chairs, extra coat racks and hangers, specific directional information and reminders pre-party)
  • Consider the kids (have child-friendly drinks and snacks available, age-appropriate toys and activities)
  • Delight and surprise.  Don’t give away all the details of what to expect and incorporate fun, creative elements whenever possible.  For instance, I posted humorous developmental update signs throughout the party for guests to discover along the way (see below).  And I played gangnam style when hosting the Korean traditional doljabi ceremony (also added Psy as one of the items Juliet could pick up and choose).

welcome

baby convertible

easel

one year old

1st birthday party

first birthday party

one year old birthday

For more party pics, follow me on Instagram @FabGabBlog and click here for part 2 of this fab fete post!  Part 2 includes:

  • Dessert bar
  • Snack / beverage bar
  • Korean Doljabi ceremony
  • What went wrong (but nobody noticed)

Let me know what you think!

 

 

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